Finally you have found woman profile on online dating site... For sure next step will be to let the person know about your interest in her. It is normal for man to feel a bit nervous when writing first letter to woman he has never seen in real life. Main goal of first letter in such situation is to make interest in your person. That is why you need to know what women want to see in a first letter and what things will make woman interested in communicating with you. Before writing this article I have asked some women what they like in first letters they got from new male friend when being a member of online dating site. I hope that their tips and thoughts will be interesting for you.
Competition level
Depending on dating site specific and business model women can receive up to 200 emails from different persons a day. Especially high competition is on russian dating sites where women have very nice photos and make up to 90% members database. When 90 hunters chase 10 elks competition level is very high. The same thing happens on dating sites. Usually women reply only to 10-15 letters (from one hundred) and if you want to be in this lucky number your first letter should show respect to woman and force to her reply you at least with “no, thank you” text.
If you know that this woman should have many letters try to make your letter original and interesting for her.
Personalize
The first tip you should follow when writing first letter to women is very simple. You have to start letter by meaning her real name (if possible). Even if you send a “template first letter” to a certain number of women you will save your time but your response rate will be much lower than you expect. Each woman will respect if you start your greeting contains her name (at least her nickname). This will force woman to start thinking that she is the only one who holds your attention, or at least you spend time to read her profile. Take note though that you shouldn’t use sweet phrases or endearments such as “sweetie” or “dear” in your first letter. Use these words only when your correspondence will be more on next stage.
Introduce yourself
Another important role in a process of writing the first letter is your introduction. Your first letter to woman should impose woman to write a reply with her questions to you. If you have some interesting facts about your self write about them but not in details. Force women to ask details, keep interest in your personality. Don’t tell whole story in one letter. Let woman ask certain questions and reply to them letter by letter. In first letters women usually wants to know main things about your personality: hobbies, career, interests, etc. These details are important because they want to know if you are compatible with her and some would even want to know your zodiac sign to determine your personality.
Explain your choice
As soon as you’ve told main information about yourself, you should tell why you decided to write letter to her. Remember that usually online dating sites have more female members than males. Use this into your advantage by making her feel that out of all the women in the online dating site her profile was most encouraging for you. Describe the certain information in her profile that was especially interesting for you to prove that you really have read her dating profile and you spend time on writing this email personally for her. Never write that you were interested because of her breasts or her sexy legs – women don’t like to sell their body.
Show Your Strengths
If you still thinking that your first letter is too short to be sent next step could be attempt to write what you can offer to her and why she should be interested in you. Yes, it sounds a bit egoistic and overconfident but women usually like confident persons. Women would be more interested in you if they will see that you are stable and you are successful in your job.
Ask Questions
The last part of the first letter is your questions to her. You never know what will be reaction from her side, if she is too shy to tell about her in the way you have described your first letter than you should help her as a brave man from tales. Ask her something that you would like to know about her but ensure that you ask the question in a way that would not make her feel offended or embarrassed to answer.
Conclusion
Process of correspondence and letter writing is not so easy as many people think. You should use psychological tricks, know how to sell your advantages and hide bad sides of your character, as well as tell about them when time will come. But if you will stay honest with you pen pal and will respect her interests everything should be fine. Write letters and be happy!
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