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Dating advice for shy and trusting persons
Dating advice for shy and trusting persons
Do you consider yourself as a shy or trusting person and have some kind of problem due of this in your private life? You are not alone. Hundreds shy and trusting people need advices and afraid to ask for professional advice. We have found some professional dating advices for shy and trusting persons from Advice Chick (Kimberly Williams). We decided to post some of them on WelcomeToDating.com for your review
I've been in a long distance relationship for 4 years. While we are away from each other I'd like to "kick it up a notch." I need some creative ideas that either myself or both of us can do to break up the monotony. Do you have any?
Dating advice for shy persons by Dating Advice Chick
Four years? Damn. What the hell y'all waiting on? Somebody needs to (you know what) or get off the pot. Anyways ... here are a few ideas for you, but don't be a fool and wait TOO long. Both of you can keep "missing you" journals. Just get a regular notebook and record the thoughts you have about each other. Record the times you feel lonely, the times you feel happy, and the times you have doubts. Exchange the journals with each other every month or so. The written word is very powerful, especially when the words are heartfelt.
Try to speak to each other first every morning and last every night. This way, you wake up and go to sleep with each other. Invest in a really good video phone. I found a great one for you, but it's hella expensive. It's the Motorola "Ojo" Personal Video Phone. The current retail value is kinda pricey, but money is not an option when it comes to the one you love.
Send each other flowers/stuffed animals/gifts to the job. Take time and enclose a personal greeting, not the old boring store bought ones. Share digital photos which highlight the typical ins and outs of your day. Check out the budget travel sites like Expedia and Hotwire and plan to visit often. Communication is important in all relationships ESPECIALLY long-distance ones.
I am struggling with this on a day-to-day basis. I want to know if there is something wrong with me. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of almost 4 years. It was good but began to suffer because he would never work for long periods of time. He got fired from every single job and put the blame on everyone else but himself. I tried to stress the point of how we would never get to any other level in our relationship (saving for a wedding, a house etc.) without a job and that it takes money to basically live, period. Every time I put the pressure on for him to get a job he runs home. Yet and still, I took him back. He did several different things throughout our relationship (put holes in condoms, wrecked my car and lied about it, thought I was cheating and proceeded to check my *meow*).
He could be very charming and helped with my son but yet and still things never changed. He was very controlling, I couldn't even go out with my family without my phone blowing up every five minutes. We broke up but because I loved him I took him back. This went on for the duration of our relationship. Back in December we were separated, but we talked daily and he said he loved me and he kept promising to change, get a job, quit sweating me, etc. I believed him because I loved him. We met briefly and he became the person I fell in love with again so we agreed to give it one more try. During his preparation to come back his phone calls became less and less and his lies became more outlandish.
Did I mention he was a professional liar? We agreed to meet again to talk and come to find out he had a girlfriend where he was living at the time. I was and still am hurt because he led me to believe he wasn't doing anything even though I knew he was, and he basically told me everything I wanted to hear. This new girlfriend is 13 years his senior. He still calls me and confesses his love for me. My problem is I am having a problem letting him go even though I know I should. What in the hell is wrong with me? Tell me because I know you'll give it to me straight.
Dating advice for too much trusted persons by Dating Advice Chick
You are acting like a damn fool, but when you know better you will do better. His new girlfriend is the best thing that could have happened to YOU. Girl! You were dating a muh fuh'in loser. When he did work, he got fired. He placed the blame on everyone but the man in his mirror. He was already broke, but put holes in the condom like he could afford to take care of another child?
He lied about everything, and even earned the title "professional liar." Yet, you kept taking him back, and you can't let go although he is technically gone? You don't have low self-esteem, you have NO self-esteem. You are holding on to what you are used to, but baby girl --- it's not good enough for you. Loser type men will tell you whatever they think you want to hear. Don't listen to what they say, watch what they do. When a man says he loves you, he should treat you like he loves you. "Love" does not EVER hurt, ma. Love doesn't hurt your feelings, your heart, or your pocket.
You might think there's nothing better out there, but that is a lie. There are some good men out there, but you've got to work on yourself first. You've got to build up your confidence and recognize your worth before you can expect a man to do so.
Former VIBE Magazine advice columnist, Advice Chick (Kimberly Williams) has been been seen on national T.V, and heard on national radio! Speaking engagement? Business proposal? Media inquiry? Call Kimberly at 312-893-0538. Do YOU have questions for Advice Chick? Visit http://www.advicechick.com or email her at advicechick @ameritech.net
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