As we all know not all relationships work out and for some people this leaves them with the dilemma of how to stop dating without hurting the other person. Sometimes we continue relationship just because we do not know how to stop it but sooner or later it ends with big upsets and hurts.
For some people the breakup of a relationship even if the relationship is only of a few weeks can only be compared to a death in the family or of a very close friend. Some people are left totally devastated by a break up. Trying to stop dating without hurting the other person can be very difficult and with the best will in the world it is almost inevitable that someone will get hurt, the best we can hope for is keeping the pain to a minimum.
Being honest is usually the best policy, try and keep it friendly and gentle, remember hearts are very fragile and breaking a heart can have long lasting effects.
There are many reasons why relationships just don’t work sometimes there isn’t anyone to blame, the relationship has run its course and one or both parties have nothing more to offer. This can often be the easiest of relationships to end as the fire of the relationship is slowly going out and both parties are usually aware that things are not as they used to be.
When a partner has been cheating this can cause real distress, it undermines the confidence of the other person and can cause real bitterness and resentment. It breaks the bond of trust and this can be very difficult to rebuild with another person in another relationship. It is far better to tell the other partner that things are over and you have met another person than try and play the cheating game, because if you get caught, you too could be hurting as well as the ‘new’ partner.
To stop dating without hurting for some people is possible;-
- If both parties agree to the split
- If both parties are able to remain friends
- If they didn’t really care about the person they were dating
- If both parties considered the relationship to be either just friendship or casual.
Sadly it seems that one matter what one or both of the parties is going to get hurt to some degree or other.
There are those who say that if you truly love someone and they chose to leave or break off the relationship for whatever reason, you should allow them to leave with a happy heart, your true love for them means that you want them to be happy even if that means they have to be with another person in order to be happy.
The saying, it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all, is a lovely saying, but only on reflection.
Nobody likes getting hurt feelings and emotions are very precious and fragile and healing can take a long time, but being honest without being hurtful is by far the best policy in order to stop dating without hurting either yourself or the other person.
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