Sam Yagan -- chief executive officer of www.OkCupid.com , an online dating Web site -- says that people must make their relationship a top priority, and act accordingly, to keep the bond fresh, exciting and nurtured.
"What happens is that a lot of times, people in relationships fail to include nurturing their relationship on their list of things to do every day," Yagan says.
Romantic relationships, Yagan says, have three stages: the initial attraction (lust), the romance (falling in love), and the attachment (where both partners become comfortable with each other). The comfort is a good thing, but problems arise when couples reach this phase and forget about the first two, he says.
If daily life has involved your marriage or relationship into big problems consider these tips how to get back it from relationship experts at OKCupid.
• Don't pressure yourself about coming up with creative and brilliant ideas; sometimes, the simplest things, like daily kisses, mean the most. Still, a little imagination and surprise can work wonders, like giving your sweetheart 1,000 jellybeans on your 1,000-day anniversary.
• Focus on little acts of service that please your partner, like making his or her favorite dinner.
• When you're watching TV on the couch, sit together and cuddle.
• Go on a vacation together sans kids -- even if it's just one night in a local hotel.
• Give up a pet-peeve, some annoying habit, for the sake of your partner. For instance, if leaving the dishes in the sink drives your wife crazy, then make the effort to stop doing it.
• Have regular relationship meetings and check-ups, where you talk openly about what is going well, and any problems that are arising.
• Give a "tickle" every day, by tucking a love note in your spouse's briefcase, for instance, or sending a romantic text message.
• Make time for fun. Write down activities you both enjoy, and do one each week. What gets scheduled gets done, and is a priority.
• Shatter the routine. Get out of a rut with news surroundings, and a varied schedule.
• Those who sweat together stay together. Turn your workout time into couple time.
• Do the unexpected. Surprise your spouse with a weekend getaway, coffee in bed or doing the laundry.
• Try to understand and meet each other's needs. Women, for instance, often need more emotional closeness, and men often need more sex.
• Write down your five dream dates and then do them.
• Change your vocabulary, so that you think in terms of "we" and "our" instead of "I" and "my."
Don't hesitate to talk about your problems and dreams with your partner. If you are not satisfied with situation you see in your relationship don't wait until it will be too late to talk about this. Try to fix problems when they appear to keep your relationship healthy and romantic.
Sources:
1. Sam Yagan, CEO of www.OkCupid.com; Darren Hardy, publisher and editorial director of SUCCESS magazine; Laura Laffoon, co-author of "The Spark: Igniting the Passion, Mystery and Romance in Your Marriage."
2. Pittsburgh Live: Couples can keep the spark in marriage
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