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Dating advices for first date. What to wear and to fly right on your first date
This article has been published by Jamie Walters on ThisIsLondon.co.uk. We have added some minds and tips and we hope that our advices for first date could be useful to you.
Bad breath, poor personal hygiene and medallions are the best ways to guarantee a first date is the last. But more subtle peccadillos may also send your potential love match running. Here, dating pros run through the top bugbears. Let's find out what profesionals working for leading dating services could advice you when preparing for first date.
FIRST DATE ADVICES FOR BOYS
1. Vests
These went out with bloomers, yet British blokes still wear them. 'Anything that looks like it has a vest underneath is a major turn-off,' says Judi James, a relationship and body language expert from dating service Match.com. 'It creates a suspicion that mum is still dressing you. David Beckham wearing one doesn't make it acceptable.'
Try to think as normal people do before deciding to wear your favorite modern bloomer. Be elegantly and accurate dressed on your first date.
2. Bad socks
Novelty socks should be illegal. Wearing white ones should be a capital offence. 'They look naff,' says Karen Mooney, founder of dating agency Sarah Eden. 'They may be all right with a tracksuit but not on a date.
Socks in general are a danger area. If your date can see them at all, your trousers are too short.' - so take a look on them before going to first date And if you wear socks with sandals, hand yourself over to the police now.
3. Jewellery
According to Julia Bruni, author of How To Pull Girls (Random House), it doesn't work on any level. If it's chunky, you will look like a wannabe gangster. If it's discreet, you will look feminine - and, despite all the talk of being just gay enough, girly isn't good. 'Don't fall for the advertised image of fashion designers,' says Bruni. 'Girls like men to look manly.'
If you want to show that you have jewellery just take your gold chain gifted to you on birthday or other occasion. It would be enough. Be modest.
4. A purse
A wallet is fine but, if you have a little fold-up purse to hold your change, then bin it immediately. 'Men have always used them but, if a girl on a first date sees you pull one out of your pocket, she'll be jumping out of the loo window,' says James. 'Anything that holds change is a bad idea. Just use your pockets.'
5. Not offering to pay
It may be the Noughties but you still need to show an old-fashioned side. 'I think the man should offer to pay - if he doesn't, he'll be indicating that he's tight,' says Mooney. 'If you're tight with your money, you're tight with everything, including your emotions. She may well refuse and want to go Dutch (which she should, really) and that's fine - but you must at least offer.'
FIRST DATE ADVICES FOR GIRLS
1. Being high maintenance
Okay, your chap should offer to pay on a first date, but don't take advantage or you'll give the impression you're expensive to look after. Don't go on about designer clothes and don't order the most expensive items on the menu. 'Inviting you for a date doesn't mean he fancies being treated like a cash cow,' says Bruni. 'Don't act like you're with him to get your luxuries paid for.'
Be modest on your first date with him. Guys like reasonably modest girls.
2. Sexy outfits
Ignore the stereotype: chaps would prefer their date not to look like a French hooker. 'Blokes do not like the overtly sexy red-satin-dress-and-high-heels look,' says James. 'A lot of women assume that it is desirable but it smacks of desperation and men tend to find it over the top. Nobody wants to kiss a girl who's wearing three tonnes of red lipstick.'
Use but don't allow cosmetic to change your face completely. Remember that cosmetic should be cleaned every day and he will see you without cosmetic sooner.
3. Too much perfume
As with the outfit, don't go over the top with the whiff. 'A subtle waft of perfume can be lovely but turning up on a date reeking of the stuff is never a good idea,' says Deborah Uri, MD of Yahoo Personals. 'It screams: "I'm desperate".' Mooney agrees: 'You don't want to be able to smell it five metres away. It should only be noticeable when up close and personal.'
4. Talking about those previous relationships
It's bad enough when you're complimentary about former boyfriends - he really doesn't want to know. It's even worse when you're full of vitriol. 'A lot of women harbour bitterness. But who wants to go out with someone who's bitter and twisted?' says Mooney. 'It's the same as rubbishing your current employer when you go for a job interview. It doesn't give the right impression at all.'
5. Getting drunk
Ladette behaviour will have your date running for the hills. 'It may sound a bit sexist but nobody likes seeing drunken women,' says James. 'Restaurant toilets are full of girls on dates trying to sober up - it's so easy to go too far. A few drinks to relax combined with adrenaline and a lack of food can easily send you over. To be safe, have no more than a third of what you can normally handle.'
If it is possible try to avoid alcohol at the first date. If you know that you will go to the disco or bar don't eat rich food before - it will stop alcohol effect and then when time of effect stopping will over you would be able to be on your feets (all alcohol will burst into your blood at once when fat cover in stomach will split).Be carefull not only first date but before it too.
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