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I don’t know your age and your sex so I decided to write down general first date advices for both males & females. There is no sense to describe all in nitty-gritty details, so I will list general tips and short explanation why it is recommended to do in this way. Finally, the main goal of this first date guide is to prepare you for the first date in all aspects by showing you what your partner expects and feels on the first date or before it. For some reason we believe that stress before the first date is one-way directed and your partner is prepared and don’t worry so much as you. That’s wrong and that’s why I recommend you to read both sides positions in spite of your sex to help each other on the first date.
Few Hours Left Before The First Date Men: Men before the date are less nervous than women is a myth. Men do not think about appearance so much as women but he experience other problems more related to first date organization. Where to go on the first date, how start conversation on the first date because first date etiquette says men should start conversation, what question to ask, what flowers to buy and what to speak about on the first date. Enough for stressful situation I think.
Tip: Try to relax. That’s most important step to have a success. Don’t worry too much on “what to do” things. I recommend you to prepare 2-3 plans where you can go with your date. Recommended first date duration is 2-3 hours, so the places to go should be somewhere near first date location. Flowers’ buying before first date is not necessary. It is better to buy them during the first date. When planning your first date remember that cold and hungry woman is not romantic.
Women: 3 hours left! I am not ready! I am looking awful, what will he think about me? How to hide my disadvantages? What to wear on the first date? What to speak about? – It’s a short list of questions before the first in the women head. Women usually think more about their appearance and are very nervous on the first date because they don’t know what to expect and how to show better in the partner eyes.
Tip: Stop panic! Think about your advantages (eyes, figure or character) and try to show them instead of spending time on your disadvantages hiding. Wear what you like and feel yourself comfortable (especially if you don’t know where you will go during the date). Men don’t understand all amenities of evening dress, but they will notice slovenliness in your dress (cut off buttons or ragged tights) so be somewhere in middle, be accurate in your dressing but not too much original – men not women they don’t understand the word fashion. And finally DON’T LATE on the first date.
What To Talk About On A First Date Men: Usually man waits woman at the location of first date. So when woman came (coming 5-15 minutes later) the conversation starter role goes to men. At this moment most probably he thinks about one question: “How to start conversation?” or “What to talk about on the first date.
Tip: Here is a list of themes to talk about on the first date: compliments, literature, love, sea, holidays, childhood, weather, friendship, hobby, dancing, music, about your town. Don’t speak about sports, technical questions, computer games – it’s not interesting for women. To relieve the stress of your date just say the she looks perfect and she will be ready for conversation.
Here are some questions to ask on the first date:
How was your day?
You look really nice, where did you get this?
Have you been to…?
What kind of foods do you like?
What sports do you play or like? How long have you played for?
Where are you from?
Where did you go to school/college?
After asking these question carefully listen your partner answers, try to find next question in the answer and develop your conversion in the free mode.
Women: Women role on first date is very important especially in conversation. She is also worrying what to speak about but usually her role is conversation holder.
Tip: Try to hold conversation on the first date, remember that man is trying to find the right theme which is interested for you by asking different question. Don’t hesitate to take initiative into your hands: offer places where you can go on the first date, offer interesting conversation themes, ask questions too. But don’t speak too much like some women do. You should be communicative but not too much talkative, learn to listen your opponent.
Kissing On The First Date To kiss or not to kiss on the first date? This question is too difficult to answer because it depends on your personality so I will continue with some advices.
Tip for men: If you want to kiss your partner do it. But don’t kiss it instantly. Try to prepare your partner for this: hold hands, hang her, accidentally touch “hot” places, look into her eyes, whisper compliments in ear. Such action may prepare woman for kissing on the first date. But if she shows some signs of not-willing-to-kiss stop your actions. Some women don’t like close relationships on the first date. Just let situation to develop by it.
Tip for women: If you want to kiss him just show some signs of this: take his hand, whisper to ear, be closer to him and flirt with him. When the moment of kissing comes don’t over pause it, just make your lips close to his lips. If you don’t want to kiss him or you don’t like kissing on the first date due some personal reasons just say about between replications. General recommendation is to let him know do you like him or not because it’s important for him as well as for you.
Things To Do After The First Date Men: Men are more self-confident and after the first date try to analyze what happened where did he made mistakes, and what to do now. The most difficult situation is when women did not show her attitude to him on the first date. Usually man don’t think about women feelings in the first 2-3 days, it’s not necessary for him to call and say that he wants to continue relationship.
Tip: Stop thinking about yourself. Remember about your partner, she is awaiting your call. If you like her and the first date you had few hours ago call her at the evening and say this. If don’t want to continue relationship let her know about this by sending sms-message, sending email or e-card or call her.
Women: Women after first date usually waits for reaction from him. She waits his call, she looks at the phone number and everyday her mood become worse. It’s very important for woman to get some support from friends, relatives after first date that’s why they like to speak about first date to closest friends.
Tip: You should understand that men are different from women. If he don’t call try to understand that he doing this not because he don’t like you, it’s because he does not know that you waiting for his call. If you can’t wait anymore show this be calling him or by sending greeting card. Don’t play victim role – take situation into your hands!
Other Important First Date Tips - Be yourself. Your partner should see your real face and character to avoid problems in the future.
- Don’t keep silence. It’s difficult to speak when you don’t have conversation partner.
- Don’t speak about marriage on the first date. It’s too early I think and could scare a man.
- Sex on the first date. Hmm… Here I can’t help. Personally I don’t think that sex on the first date is good for long time relationship. But if you’re looking just for sex and may be more. Why not to have a sex on the first date?
- Don’t speak about personal problems. That’s not interesting for your partner and could spoil your image. Left your problems discussing to the next dates.
- Show signs. If you want to continue relationship let your partner know about this on the first date. Don’t wait when he call you again. There is chance that he/she would not think that you don’t like him
- Ask for contact details. If you want to continue your relationship ask for phone number, email or something else to not loose a contact with your date.
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