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first_date_mistakes.jpgAccording to Parship survey one in three first dates ends in disaster with embarrassing blunders proving to be the passion killers, according to a new survey.

The romantic first date hopes are devastated by different mistakes single do during a date. The most popular mistakes why first date went wrong were alcohol and talking about a former partner, according to the latest research. The survey also showed that 8 million singles in the UK are currently looking for love and they will go on a staggering 18 million first dates this year. It means that average UK single has a bit more than 2 first dates during a one year. At least 6 million of first dates of those will end in disaster, and even fewer will lead to something special.

Here is a short summary of 1300 first dates which were participating in Parship.co.uk survey:

  • 40% singles admitted to turning up late for a first date - or not showing at all.
  • 28% talked about their ex -and past sexual experiences. Not best thing to discuss on a first date, really.
  • 14% confessed to over-indulging in alcohol
  • 6% said they had been chaperoned by a friend
Dr Victoria Lukats, psychiatrist and Parship's dating expert said:

For some, a first date can be more like negotiating through a minefield. People can feel under an enormous amount of pressure to make a good impression on a date.
TOP FIRST DATE MISTAKES MEN DO

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Answering You Cell Phone

This first date mistake is more related to men behaviuour on the first date. Don't answer your cell phone when she speaks. She may understand this action like you are ingoring her verbal message. It will be very hard to prove later that call was important. Just turn on silent mode on your phone and enjoy a first date. You will be able to check all missed calls lates.

Discussing The Ex

It is obviuos that you shouldn't talk about ex on a first date, all people know this but 20% of women and men still doing this mistake during a first date.  12% of males and 6% of women admitted to talking about previous sexual experiences. Honestly speaking it is not a big problem if your date partner started talking first about this but you never know the reaction of opposite side if you will start talking about your ex wife - that is a point where problem exists.

Drinking Too Much

11% of men and 14% of women said they've drunk so much alcohol on a first date that they lost control of themselves.

Checking Out Other Women

If you can't control your eyes better sit facing away from the crowd, so that nothing else will tempt your eyes.

Being Rude To Waiters & Service People

If your food is cold tell your waiter politely. If it's taking too long, kindly inform the manager. Diplomacy goes a lot further with women than aggression, as she will judge you by how you treat others. Besides, you don't want to piss off waiters

Buying A Dinner Does Not Mean Sex

Paying for dinner is an optional, gentlemanly thing to do, not a VIP pass into her panties.

However, 30% of men and 20% of women admitted to going home with their date, with 25%r men and 20% women claiming it led to sex.

Rushing The Date

Speed dating is fun for some, but if you want to make an impression, you've got to give her more than five minutes. A woman wants to believe that you think she's special and worth your time.

Having Bad Eating Manners

The fact that you're paying for dinner doesn't entitle you to eat from her plate without asking. Chew slowly and swallow before talking.

Lying On A First Date

80% of singles say they've lied about their age on a first date.  6% pretend that they're not dating other people, 4% lie about their job and salary, 3% lie they still live with their parents, while 2% have forgotten that they are married. Lie is probably the most popular mistake people do on first dates but it has no

Forgotten Name

30% men and 3% of women say they've even forgotten their date's name. Write your date name into your cell phone immidiately when you got phone number. This will help you to avoid this first date mistake.

First date mistakes women doTOP 10 FIRST DATE MISTAKES WOMEN DO

Being Late

On average, 30% of men and 50% of women admitted to turning up late for a first date. Being late is top mistake women do on a first date. Many women think that being late is fashionable way of behaviour for women at first date. But it is really not. Being late is a great way to tell a guy that he is not worth it to be on time. Just try to thing that he may experience because of your late because he wanted to make special plans for the evening, and your tardiness puts those plans in jeopardy.

Dress Code

If he did not mention where you will go on a first a good idea is to call and find out. The first date is not the right time to be wrongly attired. As for the backless, legless, knee-less dresses even if you look a bomb in them, please leave them in the closet! If you insist on dressing tarnish, you will end up being treated as one. And there definitely will be no phone calls.

Being Too Needy

A woman who portrays herself as needy is a major turn off. In reality, men like strong, independent and self-assured women much more attractive.

Not Willing To Do Things He Wants


Are you willing to try something new on a date? Some women have a hard time giving up on what they want to do. Take an interest in what he likes; he'll not only enjoy doing something he likes, he'll enjoy sharing it with you.

Being Too Quiet

Some women fear to do mistakes on a first date and start acting like a strong, independent person will scare off a guy. But most men do not want a timid woman; they would rather have a woman who will speak and support conversation.

Not Being Yourself

The biggest mistake women make is just not being themselves. If you try to show yourself as something else, your date will usually see right through it and be turned off that you were not confident enough in who you really are to act like yourself.

Too Many Personal Questions

Another mistake some women do is asking questions like, "When are you planning on getting married?" or, "How many women have you been with?" on the first date. Questions that are too personal in nature can be a real turn off for a guy. Would you like to be asked with these question on first date?

Three's Company


5% of women and 3% of men say they've been chaperoned by a friend or even their mother. If you decided to go with body guard on your first date inform your partner about this.
 
In order to do well on a first date it is important to control yourself and think about things which are important for your partner. If you see that you partner did mistake try to turn conversation into another topic without going in-depth to the "unwanted" and possible dangerous question. First date mistakes listed here are only most common there are plenty of other do and don’ts for first date. And articles listed in our first date advice section might be helpful for you to read. 

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